Question:
I have been asked to do a drama for the ladies! I have been researching your website. I have read your notes on Solomon, the glue in a marriage, and many other topics. Could I ask you to provide me with some more information on how men truly desire to be treated in marriage? To be specific, in our country’s culture, women often don’t feel a need to meet their husbands’ personal needs, but rather feel obligated to serve. So food is the biggest deal. Men can’t serve food for themselves; the wife has to; otherwise, she is considered insubmissive. Ladies teach all this to the younger woman, but they always talk badly about their husbands, and actually are all so miserable. Please, what other links can I visit, or what additional information could you share with me?
Much thanks, God bless.
Answer:
If there is one thing I hear most often from husbands who are having marital problems, it is “My wife doesn’t show me any respect!” Men are driven by a need to be needed. See Respect.
Instead of having complaint sessions, try talking about what you admire most in your husbands and strategize how to encourage them to bring out the best in themselves. A wife should aim to encourage her husband with positive reasons to be a better man, if for no other reason than she knows she will have a better life as a result. “An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who shames him is like rottenness in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4).